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On this day, I visited a friend\u2019s stepfather at a private hospital in Zurich. I took advantage of a few days off to fly to Zurich, coinciding with the New Year. It had been at least eight years since I last saw my friend. We had arranged for him to pick me up from the airport and stay at his home, but my flight was too late, affecting him and his family, so I booked a hotel near his house. The next day, he brought his daughter to join me for breakfast at the hotel, and I suddenly remembered that I had stayed at this hotel in 2003, just when he had returned to Zurich. After breakfast, we took his children to buy desserts to bring to the hospital, and I also insisted on buying flowers.<\/p>\n
Upon arriving at the hospital room, I saw his stepfather sitting in a wheelchair, looking fatigued, but his eyes sparkled with spirit. I remember when I used to go to his house to play table tennis; he still remembered me. Before long, my friend\u2019s biological father arrived, followed by my friend\u2019s wife. Everyone prepared the desserts, arranged the flowers, and played music while eating and chatting. The atmosphere in the hospital room felt less like a hospital and more like a home party. My friend had told me beforehand that his stepfather didn\u2019t have long to live, and the scene before me was different from what I had imagined. He fed his stepfather desserts, joked with him, and constantly stroked his cheek. His biological father was also joking and laughing with him. They had known each other since they were 15 and had become very good friends, and the subsequent events became a story of their own.<\/p>\n
The sight moved me; they were so full of love, sharing so many words and embraces. My friend\u2019s wife said that her husband visited his stepfather every day, and the biological father often came too; they were very close. After leaving the hospital, I reflected a lot. The most unforgettable thing about the last day of 2024 was pondering the essence of human love. How should love be expressed? If our culture uses subtlety as an excuse and refuses to openly express love, how can loved ones truly feel that love? Human love is not meant to be hidden in the heart; it should be expressed through words and actions because love is not wrong; it should not be seen as right or wrong. Everyone has the right to love and be loved, and everyone should express their love; otherwise, life will have regrets.<\/p>\n
In the hotel by Lake Zurich, I opened a window, and the fresh cold air rushed into the room. In the early morning, a light mist covered the lake’s surface. Sitting in a chair by the window, I continued to ponder the scene in the hospital. I reflected on my behavior and my past ways of thinking. In most cases, I am not good at expressing love, firmly believing that love can be sensed \u2014 that enduring love will surely be felt by others through the results of various actions rather than being described by words that seem so insubstantial. Doing things for loved ones, wholeheartedly, whether the contribution is time or money, seems more solid than merely speaking empty words. This kind of love is not wrong, but it often neglects the interaction of those being loved; words can make actions more vivid and deeply touch those who are loved. The stepfather chatted with his son every day, holding hands, and being stroked on the cheek; he must have felt filled with love in his heart, and his cells activated more vigorously, which is why his eyes sparkled with spirit. Just as we were about to leave the hospital room, his stepfather suddenly called out to me, saying, \u201cAustin, I will be staying here; you might not see me next time you come.\u201d Tears nearly came to my eyes, and I told him that the doctor said he could be transferred for rehabilitation in a week, and I would accompany him to play table tennis next time. Deep down, he knew that his life was nearing its end, and he was bidding farewell to me in his way.<\/p>\n
How does a person understand the love from family and friends at the end of their life? When they realize their time is limited, do they perceive such love as extravagant? I gazed intently at the surface of the lake and then took a picture, writing, \u201cTo a blind person, everything is beautiful.\u201d<\/p>\n
The most perfect love in the world is when love is expressed and accepted. When love is expressed but not accepted, it is merely a regret. However, love that is felt but not expressed, or cannot be expressed in time, is the greatest regret of all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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